Friday, May 7, 2010

Gettin It (Somewhat) Right

Yesterday was my wife's birthday. She turned...

Do you really think I was going to tell you? After being married for 8 1/2 years, I have learned SOME things. One thing is that birthdays are more important to some than others.

I've never been one for ceremonies, pomp and circumstance or "tradition." It wasn't really played up in the house I grew up in, so it has been (and still is) tough to make the transition for those who DO find it important.

Here's an example: my wife's family were/are big "stocking" people. By that I mean that at Christmas, what was/is in your stocking was/is a big deal. Treats and little do-dads were always a hit. Now, in my house, there were more Christmases than not where there was nothing in our stockings. Not due to being poor, but just because it wasn't what we did.

The same focus goes for birthdays. For my family they were important, but not all consuming. That's not to say that it was an obsession for my wife's family - just different.

So for 7 1/2 yeas it has been hit-and-miss for me when it comes to birthdays. Some years it's okay. Some years, not. It gets harder with more kids and projects. Hey, isn't mowing the lawn a GREAT birthday gift?

Anyway, this year, I decided to do it right. Not "BIG." Just right.

It is a birth"day," right - not a birth"moment." So my wife's birthday started in the morning with breakfast and ended with a nice dinner. Some cool stuff in between as well.

Oh, one more important thing. My wife was adopted. And after the passage of Roe v. Wade. So the fact that she's even here is a miracle. Something to be celebrated EVERY day, not just May 6th.

Happy Birthday, honey. Let's do this again next year!

6 comments:

Unknown said...

You did an AWESOME job, honey. It is so much more about the thoughts that went in to what you did than what you actually did ... but I have to say: applause, hugs, kisses ... ya done good!!

One Man said...

David, I just came across your blog and this post was right on the money. Birthdays were a VERY big deal for my wife growing up--not so much for me--so needless to say I've been going through the same learning process. After 4 years, it's finally sinking in. Google calendar helps. Look forward to reading more posts.

Mateo said...

I feel my vocation is in men's ministry. I'm so encouraged to have found this blog and know that there are other men out there committed to this mission. I hope to keep in touch as we work for the Lord together.

Theodore M. Seeber said...

A bit of advice from the Canadian program on PBS from 10 years ago, the New Red Green Show:

1. Go out and buy your wife a present. Wrap it, put it in the trunk of your car. DO NOT TELL HER ABOUT IT.
2. One day, she'll look at you, and you know you've fogotten something. That is the day to go out to the car, get the present, and give it to her.

I don't do this as often as I should, but it's kept me from sleeping on the couch at least 5 times in the last 11 years.

reginag said...

Always better to have an accurate initial step.
windshield replacement san diego

qifei2012 said...

The potency of an education membership rights is determined by system and staff plus professors receive p90x workout. Require a entire trip about the come up with centre, browse the placement of equipment and devices, talk with coaches so when quickly since they're entirely written content to look beyond basic services, providers plus a lot of golf clubs along with centers additionally supply a wide range of even more businesses for free their visitors 90 day workout. Wholesale p90x